“See ya,” “Laters,” “Hasta la vista,” are informal farewells. Whether it is temporary or permanent, not all goodbyes are enjoyable. There are no set ways to bid adieu, it depends on the type of relationship you have with that person. If the moment of separation is intense, it can cause acute emotional discomfort.
“Remember me and smile, for it’s better to forget than to remember me and cry.” – DR Seuss
There comes a time when separation happens, you feel desperate and alone. As hard as it is, you should not pretend that you do not feel pain. It does not matter how long you have known each other, whether it is a week or your whole life, each goodbye tears a piece of your heart. It is the final step to closure, the end of a chapter. You will feel empty and bare.
“The only time a goodbye is painful is when you will never say hello again.”
Sometimes you do not get the chance to say goodbye face to face. Covid-19 and social distancing have made it impossible to say a final goodbye. You can find comfort through your grief by visiting your favourite places which will bring back happy memories. You could also play music, read a poem, or plant a tree in their memory.
“We started with a simple hello but ended with a complicated goodbye.”
Relationships are on a time limit, set for a purpose, and change depending on life circumstances. When a relationship ends, whether it is a house move or a romantic break-up, the final moment stays with us. We replay unforgettable memories of the love shared and good times spent. We hold on to our past.
“If you’ve been brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” – Paulo Coelho
But not all goodbyes have to be formal and serious. If you are uncomfortable showing your emotions, you might not find the right words to say. Make it memorable by showing them the impact that they have on you. Write them a heart-felt letter, give them a hug or just wave them off with a genuine smile. Show them how you value the time spent in their company.
“When I am brave enough to say goodbye, I’ll use the wings you gave me and away I’ll fly.” – Celia McMahon
Saying goodbye to a toxic relationship should not even be debated. If you are not being valued, not being shown the same affection you have for them, then it is time to say “au revoir”. Embark on a journey of healing, open your heart to new love and opportunities. With time and patience, your broken heart will mend.
“You and I will meet again, when we’re least expecting it. One day in a far off place, I’ll recognise your face. I won’t say goodbye my friend, for you and I will meet again.” – Tom Petty
Goodbyes can be silent. Just being there with the person is enough.
So, until next time … Have a good one!
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